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Ways To Control Anger on the Golf Course – Part 2

January 26th, 2010 admin

11. Sing, hum or whistle – access your right brain functions, and distract yourself as well. Better still, sing a song that’s associated with fun, happiness and excellent times, and associate yourself with some excellent feelings in this way. The same goes for what you hum or whistle. Whether you’re thinking excellent, fun things you cannot be insane at the same time.

12. TFT – Thought Field Therapy – you may have heard of “tapping”. Use the following tapping sequence as detailed in the book by Roger Callaghan “Tapping the Healer Within” and your rage will dissolve:-

1. Intentionally reckon approximately the rage you are treating. 2. Tap the small finger, on the interior tip, adjacent to the nail, on the side next to the ring finger – tap 5 times 3. Tap your collarbone, approximately an inch below where a man knots his tie and an inch to the right – tap 5 times. 4. Tap the back of your hand, approximately an inch below the raised knuckles of the ring finger and the small finger when making a fist – tap with two fingers of the opposite hand, approximately 3-5 times per moment and keep tapping whilst:- – open eyes – near eyes – open eyes and see down to the left – see down to the right – circle eyes circular in one direction – hum a few bars of “pleased birthday” out loud – count aloud from 1 to 5 – hum “pleased birthday” again 5. Tap the small finger again in the same spot 5 times 6. Tap the collarbone point 5 times 7. Hold your head level and go your eyes down. Then tap you hand in the same spot as before as you go your eyes upward.

Believe it or not, this has been proven to get rid of rage. You’ll need to peruse to the book to find out the scientific reasons for why it works.

13. Distract yourself – alter your thoughts. Everything in life starts with a thought. You make your own reality by choosing the way in which you reckon approximately things. “It” doesn’t make you insane – you make yourself insane. You’re the only person who can alter your thoughts; nobody else can do it for you. So distract yourself – reckon approximately something else – go to your “pleased place”.

14. Take a step back – reckon before you act. Take a moment to review the situation. Distance yourself, see at it from a different direction, and take a different perspective. Breathe deeply and take time to select the maximum productive way of dealing with the situation.

15. Learn to laugh at yourself – it’s a RECREATION, guys! It’s meant to be fun. Lighten up – nobody cares how your shot came off. In fact, your playing partners want to have a excellent laugh. Fair bobbing that ball straight down the middle would be b..o..r..i..n..g. Having a excellent laugh should be a pre-requisite in any circular of golf.

16. Get it in perspective – Why act like McEnroe on the tennis court? (”You CANNOT be SERIOUS”) Why did you expect to hit a perfect shot every time? Professionals don’t manage that so amateurs should not expect that either. And rage on the golf course is only caused by expectations that didn’t materialize.

17. Whatever you imagine you make – Whether you want to do some useful preparation and you haven’t got much time, visualizing perfect shots will assist. Your brain doesn’t know the difference between a vividly imagined experience and a genuine one. Imagine a few perfect shots, build up that muscle memory and then you’re more likely to hit a excellent shot on the first tee. Standing there thinking “I know I’m going to slice this into those trees” is of course brilliant preparation for precisely that. Give yourself a pat on the back – you did precisely what you plotted. So whether you want to hit a better shot and thereby not trigger off that “Mr Insane” in you, brush up on your visualization skills.

18. A picture is worth a thousand words – where there is a clash between your will power and your imagination, your imagination wins. To demonstrate this, attempt as tough as you can, right now, to NOT reckon approximately a giraffe. What are you thinking approximately? Did you see the word “giraffe” or a picture of its neck? Similarly, what happens when you reckon “don’t go in the bunker”? Your mind is exquisitely talented – the golf ball will go to whatever place on the course you are picturing…So whether you want to halt those insane triggers, picture the place where you want the ball to conclusion up.

19. Selective memory (bin the negatives) – turn a blind eye, place it to the back of your mind, sweep it under the carpet. Familiar with these phrases? They reflect another of the exquisite mental talents we all instinctively possess. The problem is that some people turn a blind eye to the excellent things and focus on the terrible ones. Attempt it the other way circular and there will be nothing to make you insane.

20. Conversation to yourself nicely – we all feel better with a bit of compliment. Maximum of you will be excellent at encouraging someone else who’s hit a duff shot…yet when it’s your own duff shot that’s in the highlight, you’ll call yourself a plonker! Whether someone else called you that you’d get beautiful insane; and calling yourself names will make you insane too. So, give it a go, attempt being nice to yourself, halt calling yourself names, conversation to yourself in a nice soothing voice. Who knows, saying to yourself “Never mind, the next one will be brilliant” could really work.

Roseanna Leaton, specialist in golf hypnosis cds and hypnosis mp3 downloads.

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Do You Do “Basil Fawlty” Impressions On The Golf Course? – Part 1

January 16th, 2010 admin

Golf is a recreation and should be fun. Fun is what it’s all approximately; playing a brilliant recreation with a few pals. No matter how excellent a golfer you are and no matter how vital your golf may have become to you, it’s still a recreation and should be loved in the spirit of the recreation. It’s a recreational activity, which you should find relaxing.

Do you find it relaxing? Or do you find your emotions being affected in a rather different way as you play this brilliant recreation? Do you find yourself hacking your golf clubs into the ground, or slinging them across the fairway? Do you find yourself muttering four letter words under your breath (or out loud)?

We all have caricatures in our minds of the right “Mr. Insane”. Are you a “Mr. Insane golfer?” Whether so, would it be handy to be able to alter?

Rage is a normal and generally healthy human emotion. When rage is controlled, or managed, it will not cause you, or anyone around you, any harm. But when it is out of control it will become destructive. Uncontrolled rage is a major cause of clash in both personal and professional relationships, on an off the golf course.

Rage is an emotional state which may vary in intensity and which is accompanied by physiological and biological changes – your heart rate increases, blood pressure rises, adrenaline is secreted at a greater level. Not very helpful when you’re trying to play a recreation that requires a state of relaxed concentration in order to be able to place your best swing on the golf ball.

Rage is caused by your own perception of events, whether that event is happening now, or in the past, or you are anticipating a future event. It is vital that you know this fact. You make your own rage. Your golf ball may have found its way into the trees, or a plugged lie; there may be a lack of baskets at the range or the tee box may not be level…but “it” did not make you insane…You did.

You will no doubt have wondered how some golfers remain cool, or even laugh, no matter what happens to their ball whilst others “blow” or “flip” at the slightest thing. The difference is that some people have learnt to manage their rage, whilst others have given in to it.

You have probably watched “Fawlty Towers” and laughed at Basil’s antics. But isn’t the entire series based on taking off mismanaged rage and frustration? And the exaggerated body language demonstrates perfectly the actual effect of rage – raised voice, jerky movements, clenched fists, and…a direction for the rage – generally Manuel or Mrs. Fawlty…and the disastrous results that are achieved reflect the destructive effect of uncontrolled rage.

And the equivalent of Basil in golf can be equally amusing some of the time…or perhaps embarrassing, depending on how you see it. The direction for the rage is generally the ball, the clubs, the nearest gorse bush, and so on. In extreme cases the entire trolley and clubs have been known to be launched into water and never retrieved!

The question is how have those non-insane people learnt to manage their rage? How can “Basil” learn to manage his rage? And, more importantly, do you want to control your rage? Because whether you don’t want to, you won’t even attempt. Everyone can alter so long as they want to. You’re not born insane, you fair haven’t learnt how to manage your rage.

Roseanna Leaton, specialist in golf hypnosis cds and hypnosis downloads.

 

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Ways To Control Anger on the Golf Course – Part 1

January 5th, 2010 admin

Rage really is one of the maximum detrimental emotions in life in common as well as when on the golf course. For someone who suffers from the grips of this emotion it is useful to have several different methods to drop back upon so as to halt rage from ruining your golf. The following is a small list of rage management tips which you may find useful.

1. Breathing – Your mind and body are intrinsically linked. Mind works on body, body works on mind. It’s impossible for your mind to be tense and your body relaxed and vice versa. By relaxing your breathing you will automatically relax your mind. Breathe through your abdomen, not your chest. Five deep breaths will do the hoax.

2. Reach for that Hamlet – Recollect the Hamlet cigar advert? Attempt it without a cigar for a healthy version – take a step back, sit under a tree and take a few deep breaths – that’ll relax you nicely. It’s not the nicotine which relaxes you (nicotine is a stimulant, after all); it’s the step back and the deep breath which does the hoax.

3. Ping an elastic band – you’ve seen smokers doing this one. Wear an elastic band on your wrist and every time you get a thought or feeling you don’t want to have you ping the band tough so that it hurts you so much you can’t even feel insane!

4. Go to your pleased place – Everyone can do this one. Recollect the film “Pleased Gilmore”?

5. Pre shot routine – Hopefully, you all have one of these. The reason for having a consistent pre-shot routine is to absorb your mind in the detail of the task at hand, and in so doing any other not-so-productive thoughts are displaced. Whether you thought it unnecessary to have a set routine, reckon again.

6. Post shot routine – De-Brief. I bet not many golfers have one of these. It’s an “OK that happened. Not what I wanted, but it did.” Then you visualize what you did want to happen and replace the memory immediately, so that next time you come across a similar situation you recollect the perfect shot (not the duff one that you did hit). How can you feel insane when you’re choosing to recollect the perfect shot?

7. Reckon “smooth” – smooth movements. Insane people are tense and jerky. Consciously smooth out your walk, pretend you’re gliding, floating along the fairway, and then it’s impossible to feel insane. Like I said before your mind and body are intrinsically linked.

8. Be in the “now” – you might reckon you are, but are your thoughts really on the present moment? A Stanford University study found that the average person has 60,000 thoughts a day, 59,500 of which are the same as the day before – indicating that it’s a really tiny percentage of time that people are really “in the now”. Whether you’re in the now, you can’t worry approximately past failures, you can’t worry approximately future outcomes; all you are doing is concentrating on the present and there’s nothing in the present that can really make you insane.

9. Dissociation – have you ever had that feeling that you’re there, but not there? Or maybe a feeling that you can nearly drift up onto the ceiling and see down at yourself? This is brilliant on the golf course. Imagine how excellent you could feel, fair drifting out of your body, floating up in the air and distancing yourself from all those unnecessary emotions? You could even drift right on off to your pleased place!

10. Where there’s a will, there’s a way – Whether you want to deal with things better you can; whether you don’t want to you can’t.

Roseanna Leaton, specialist in golf hypnosis cds and hypnosis mp3 downloads.

 

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Do You Do “Basil Fawlty” Impressions On The Golf Course? – Part 2

December 30th, 2009 admin

Believe it or not, everyone can learn to control their own internal response to things that previously triggered rage; to memorize to control their body rather than letting it control them. To memorize to slow their body down rather than letting it speed up. The purpose of rage management is to memorize how to alter the way you react to your “rage triggers”. You can’t alter external events, but you can alter your emotional and physiological reactions to them.

You can use hypnotic suggestion, NLP techniques and positive visualization to assist in controlling your rage. Firstly, it is vital to memorize to relax. This is simple whether you know how, but tough whether you don’t. You can be taught simple relaxation which you can practice regularly, thereby “bringing you down” a level or two, and so less likely to respond to rage triggers. You can learn to relax quickly and easily whilst on the golf course; you have the ability to relax fair as quickly as you have the ability to get yourself wound up.

Secondly, it is necessary to explore the way in which you reckon and learn how to alter that. Insane people tend to speak in raised voices, swear, go jerkily, etc. They see enormous pictures in their minds eye (generally in dramatic Technicolor) of what they don’t want to happen (”I know it’s going into those trees”) and respond to this self-made image. Insane people tend to conversation to themselves with nasty, aggressive voices and chunter absent to themselves approximately the unfairness of things (”why is it my ball that’s always lost?”), or how life is against them, or how unlucky they are. You can learn techniques that will enable you to turn the volume down on these internal voices, speak in a nicer tone and to see nicer pictures in your mind’s eye; i.e. to alter your instinctive response to these triggers.

It’s too worth exploring whether your overall belief system in flawed. For example whether you believe that you “always” have terrible luck or that such and such “never” comes your way, you will not notice when things are going well, on or off the golf course; You’ve programmed yourself to only see the terrible. And when terrible things happen, you’ve visualized your own insane response, etc. Thus, it is vital to explore and alter wider belief structures approximately yourself and your world.

Rage is often induced by very genuine problems and frustrations. Whether you have a belief structure that says you can handle anything no matter how terrible it is, you will respond positively to the situation, and get on with the task of taking your next shot, without fitting insane. You will therefore halt the tendency to leap to negative and inaccurate conclusions. Whether, on the other hand, the belief structure of “nothing ever works for me” comes into play, insane feelings are triggered and the result is negative in every way – you feel insane, stopping yourself from thinking straight, and then make destitute strategy choices and then who knows where the golf ball will conclusion up? The problem simply becomes compounded.

One’s expectations must be examined. Are they realistic? Many insane people simply expect too much or want something “right now” and then get insane when the impossible doesn’t materialize. It is vital to restructure such expectations and give them a “reality check”. Do you expect every shot to be perfect? The pros don’t expect that. Do you expect to play golf on a Saturday morning, after a few beers on Friday night, no practice in the week and hit every ball perfectly? Whether so, it’s time to run that reality check for yourself!

A feeling of inadequacy or insecurity is frequently the heart of the problem. (A dread that you’re not excellent sufficient, for example). This feeling is then redirected (either consciously or subconsciously) into the emotion of rage, as this insane feeling prevents you from feeling hurt. Thus it is vital to alter this belief structure as well; to feel that you are excellent sufficient in every way. Rage may too really be directed at oneself, but projected outwards onto another person or object.

Balance is of course the goal state to be achieved. Positive strategies towards genuine problems need to be learned, as do positive beliefs approximately yourself. The excellent news is that you are not born insane. This is a learnt response and so it can be unlearned and replaced with a different strategy which works for you, instead of against you.

It’s up to you to select. Do you want to halt “Basiling”, to memorize to halt being insane on the golf course and to delight in your golf from now on?

Roseanna Leaton, specialist in golf hypnosis cds and hypnosis mp3 downloads.

 

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Tiger Woods Balances Golf Hypnosis and Temper to Hit Good Shots and Release Bad Ones

December 21st, 2009 admin

People often question me approximately how Tiger Woods balances his obvious mood tantrums with his use of hypnosis. So moving on from yesterday’s post approximately who’s using golf hypnosis apart from Tiger. Here’s my answer to their moment question, “Fair how effective is the hypnosis that Tiger Woods uses, whether he loses his mood so much.”

You only have to see back to this year’s Masters to see what they’re talking approximately. I used to agree with them, before realising that this may be a portion of his rage management technique for releasing a terrible shot. It may upset the golfing public and his playing partners, but it doesn’t seem to have any long-term affect on him. Although he’s clearly in hypnosis while he’s hitting the ball, he appears to come out the moment he completes the swing. Whether it’s a excellent shot, he calmly moves on to the next shot. Whether it’s a terrible shot he cusses and again moves on. He’s certainly calmed down before he hypnotically plays his next shot, so his terrible shot and his mood don’t have any lasting effect.

I’m certain I’m repeating myself here, but here’s a very telling quote from Tiger that supports my analysis, “The person who can control his state can control his world”. There’s seems to be no doubt in my mind that he’s the master of State Management

Now, whether only expensive ancient Colin Montgomerie had some of Tiger’s rage management skills and the ability to control his state. He could still be fair approximately as unbeatable as Tiger. I’ll be talking more approximately Colin in a future post approximately enjoying your golf – no astonishment there then. Colin tells us that he does delight in his golf, but who’s he kidding?

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