January 6th, 2010 
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Count To 10 before you react. Better yet, insure that your next pay check won’t be needed for bail by counting to 20 before you say or do anything you might regret. Hey, whether you let yourself cool down a bit before you respond to your lover, your kids, your boss, or anyone else who has a direct effect on your blood pressure, you might both be able to avoid the Gray Bar Hotel and live longer.
What inspired me to write this article was a client who came to see me this morning. I had represented her husband in a domestic violence case earlier this year. She joined me in begging the prosecutor to go simple on him. Nowadays, they have both been charged with domestic violence. The police believe that she tried to hurt her step-daughter.
My former client had gone to the hospital and learned his man stuff wasn’t in the best order. One of the things the doctor thought could have been incorrect was the possibility of an “std”. My former client went domestic at approximately 2:30 a.m., and was maximum nervous to discuss his medical quandary with my modern client, his wife. She insisted that she was not the supplier, and my former client insisted that she was. He slammed out of the house, and my client did the logical thing, rolled over and went back to sleep.
The next day, my former client managed to remove all 3 of the family cars from the house, leaving my current client without transportation. She had a neighbor tour the city with her to find him. When she did, he was determined to make off with her car again. Not being a sissy, she jumped right in the back seat. While she was doing it, my former client was instructing his daughter, the driver, to “step on it”. They didn’t get very distant before the battle started.
Neither party had been unfaithful. The diagnosis the husband got was apparently fair “one of those things”. Both members of the couple, and the husband’s 17 year ancient daughter, finished up with bruises and sprains. There is a “no contact” order against both of them now. They want to reconcile, but they aren’t supposed to conversation to each other. They now meet in the park, or in the woods so that the police won’t see them conversation. You can go to jail for violating a protective order, so they do have to be very cautious approximately getting caught.
Now, how would things have turned out whether one of them had counted to 20? Okay, the wife went right back to sleep, and was counting sheep, whether anything. But, suppose the husband had had peruse his diagnosis and counted slowly before consulting his wife. He might have peruse that his symptoms indicated that he “might”, but not necessarily certainly have a sexually transmitted sickness. He could calmly have questioned his wife whether such a thing was possible, and she equally calmly could have informed him that she had not shared her favors with anyone while he was at work. The husband might not have started drinking, and feeling place upon. He wouldn’t have questioned his 17 year ancient daughter to get up and assist him conceal the family’s vehicles, the enormous screen TV, and a few other items that have since been returned to the domestic. He would not have had her drive him in his less than sober condition. In fact, whether they had each kept their darn heads, neither of them would have sampled the county’s hospitality. Now they are both facing felony criminal charges.
At the moment your rage peaks, you are not at your maximum rational. You are maximum likely to say or do something you’ll regret whether adrenalin is pumping through your veins, and backing your intelligence into an insignificant corner of your consciousness. Whether you let a small time elapse before you act, you honestly won’t feel so violent. Whether you are really insane, take a walk. Whether you engage in brisk exercise, your body will use that serge of energy for something healthier than punching someone you like in the nose, or describing their parentage in less than complementary terms. You will be much more likely to conclusion up in the right whether you don’t get loud or violent in an attempt to make your point. Even whether you don’t get your way in the conclusion, or you aren’t any more pleased with the person than you were in the first place, at minimum you won’t have a cot in the local lock-up while you wait for trial.
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